All tagged Dealing with loss
When we lose an opportunity (a sale, a promotion, a job offer, etc.), it’s normal - and OK - to feel down, especially if it was something we really wanted. After all, if we’ve really given it everything we had, we’ve made a commitment (emotional and otherwise) which, ultimately, has not been rewarded.
So, we take the lumps.
Momentum, in a psychological sense, is a funny thing.
It’s a mindset that wields so much influence, dominating our focus, often despite the facts. And while momentum tends to build over time, the reality is that it can also turn on a dime.
You can be in the midst of a string of strong results but one bad event, particularly one that you’d banked on, or considered ‘symbolic’ and your confidence is gone.
There’s a finality to endings that’s bittersweet.
The completion of the thing - especially something that’s absorbed us wholeheartedly and then come to some natural conclusion - almost always results in a mixture of emotions.
There’s the joy that comes from the experience (the good times, the contributions, the confirmations) which can be considerable and, at times, overwhelming. This joy is experienced both during but also in retrospect, once we’ve gained an appreciation of those aspects we may have taken for granted.
