Based in Chicago, Omerisms is a blog by Omer Abdullah. His posts explore Ideas, perspectives and points of view across business, sales, marketing, life and (sometimes) football (the real kind).

Patterns Matter
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Patterns matter. They tell you a lot about people. 

Consistent patterns of behavior tell you whether someone is good, whether they’re credible, whether they’re dedicated, etc. That’s just a fact.  

Sure, everyone can (and will) have bad days. Days where things just aren’t going the way they’d like, when they feel as if they’re at the end of their tether. In those instances, we’ll say and do things that don’t represent who we are. That’s also a fact, and it happens to the best of us.

But how we behave over a material period of time is very clearly reflective of who we are as people, as partners, as colleagues.

And it’s important to use that evidence to figure out who we should be spending our time with, personally and professionally. How do they behave? What do they do? What do they say about others? (Of course, we can - should - replace “they” with “I” and ask ourselves the very same questions.)

Salesforce’s Chief Digital Evangelist, Vala Afshar, had a few suggestions in this regard. He said we should distance ourselves from people who:

  1. Speak poorly about others

  2. Have problems for every solution

  3. Enjoy complaining

  4. Always feel entitled

  5. Blame others for losing

  6. Take more than give

  7. Make you feel bad about yourself

  8. Cheat or lie

  9. Bully or troll

  10. Nitpick as a hobby

He wasn’t speaking about patterns specifically but I think the two ideas work well together. If we see patterns in any of the above behaviors, that tells us what we need to know about who those people really are. (Though, I would add that we don’t need to see a pattern in number 8. When it comes to cheating and lying, believe people the first time.)

Sometimes, I think we make these types of judgements harder than they need to be. Either that, or we simply don’t want to accept the reality of the matter. 

People tell us who they are through their patterns. We just need to pay attention.

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